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Happy 2017 everyone!

I didn't plan it, but apparently I need a break from Facebook. Which is fine! I was spending way too much time just sitting, refreshing it on my phone, watching other people live their lives while I sat around and did nothing/watched TV/whatever. So, I removed the app from my phone, and I'm going to replace that wasted time with hopefully useful time. Or at least less stressful time. Because today just proved to me that FB can take anything and make it contentious. And I do not need that kind of negative energy right now. I'll give it a week and see how I feel.

I'm making plans for the new year. Things I want to accomplish. I don't think I wrote down my goals for this past year, but I did most of them. I wanted to eat better, study a foreign language, and try to find ways to combat brain fog. I am currently at 50% fluency in French (though I am still cowardly when it comes to trying to actually speak it), I went to a nutritionist and implemented her suggestions, and I have a couple of coping mechanisms that help with the brain fog.

Sadly, nothing really "fixes" it. But I have found that word puzzles, card games, and language study seem to help it. So, I'm going to keep those up. Plus, I really love Freecell. :) I had forgotten how much I love it. So, that's going to stick around.

The things I want to do for 2017 include: Set up my Patreon and get it going. Hopefully gain a bit of income from that. Refresh my website so that I can get my tarot reading business going again. Pray I haven't ruined my chances of any local pagan involvement because of stupid FB crap, because yeah, I'd like to try doing the local pagan group again.

(That last one is iffy and depends on how my health foo goes. But I'm so tired of not having a social circle here. Of course, with my luck I'll get a social circle and finally have friends and C will get a job offer somewhere halfway across the US. Then again, I think I could deal if the job offer was good enough.)

I am also implementing a mantra. Going to work on that, too. Hopefully, it'll help. And I'm digging out the old paper journal, to try to see if venting in private helps. I found my old journals from the 90s and... well. That's one big reason that I have a lot of empathy for other people. I can see, in black and white (or purple, or pink-- ye gods, I was an emo kid) exactly how emotional I was about a lot of things back then. So how can I expect other people to somehow be superhuman about dealing with their emotions?

I can't. So, I'm going to try to extend my empathy and help to them, if possible. And encourage others to do the same.

I have decided, after a lot of soul-searching, that there are some things I can't do. But what I *can* do *is* valuable, and I'm going to work on those things and try to contribute in the ways that I can. It may not be as flashy as some, and hell, it may not even be as useful. But hopefully, it'll make a difference to some people. And that's all I can ask for.

I'm also tentatively re-opening the journal. Going to try a few unlocked entries and see how that goes. I may change my mind. But it deserves a shot. Especially since I am going to be off-FB. I don't expect that a lot of FB peeps will find me here, but if they do I want them to be able to keep up.

Anyway. I'm off to check on dinner and make some plans. Be well, everyone.

Date: 2017-01-02 01:40 am (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] earthspirits
Happy New Year to you too! : )

It always feels good to start a new year, fresh and hopeful.

Date: 2017-01-01 08:24 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] hughville.livejournal.com
Facebook is ridiculous sometimes. I stay away from it as much as possible.

Have you tried Mahjong? I find it helps my brain a lot. Freecell is so addictive.

Good luck with everything and I hope 2017 treats you well. You deserve that.

Date: 2017-01-01 11:08 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] fyrebard.livejournal.com
I like logic puzzles too! "Hungry Cat Picross" and "Real Einstein Riddle" are two of my fav Android apps.

Date: 2017-01-02 07:34 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] miintikwa.livejournal.com
Oooh! I'll have to check them out.

Date: 2017-01-02 07:34 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] miintikwa.livejournal.com
I had a really productive conversation with a friend about how FB can be a very valuable tool. I will likely be going back soon. But I think I need to limit it or something. It is the worst time sink for me, and I dislike that.

I love Mahjong! I have that and a few other games on my Kindle Fire. I don't use it as much for the brain stimulation as I do Freecell/Sudoku and the like, but yeah. It's wonderful. :)

Thank you! <3 <3 Things are coming together slowly. I'm good with that.

Date: 2017-01-01 09:11 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] vulpine137.livejournal.com
Ahh that explains things. *hugs* Hope this New Year is good to you. :)

Date: 2017-01-02 07:38 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] miintikwa.livejournal.com
*hugs* Long story short: 2 dear friends who are both conservative got into a fight on my wall about an issue. This ONE post I made caused division between people I am 99% positive would love each other if they met in person.

This event happened right after *another* friend had a fight break out on HIS wall and I got caught in the crossfire. I decided FB is too negative for me at the moment and ditched it.

A dozen people reached out wanting to know if I was ok/what happened/OMG ARE YOU OK AUGH!

I was overwhelmed. I hid. I talked to a few people who reached out and after one particularly eloquent friend made the case that it's a tool for reaching people I care about and that it's something *I* should use, and not let it use me, I started reconsidering.

I am still considering, but I'll probably be back after a break. Seems like people like me or something. ;)

Date: 2017-01-02 07:44 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] vulpine137.livejournal.com
Like you oodles. *lots of hug*

Date: 2017-01-02 07:54 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] miintikwa.livejournal.com
*lots of hug back* Back atcha, sweetie. <3

Date: 2017-01-02 08:43 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] vulpine137.livejournal.com
Yay hugs :)

Date: 2017-01-02 07:38 pm (UTC)

Date: 2017-01-01 09:45 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] rock-dinosaur.livejournal.com
This is exactly how I feel about Facebook. It ropes you in like a highly-addictive drug, wastes your time, and distorts your perception of reality and what's actually important. I got sick of scrolling down my Newsfeed through endless drivel and codswallop that was of no interest or relevance to me. I also found that the amount of general idiocy I encountered on it (things of no real consequence, such as people's inability to construct a simple sentence or use punctuation) was making me an angry person, and anger is a thing I am extremely uncomfortable with.

I've decided that I do need to keep FB so that I can maintain contact with close friends and family, but I've managed to draw myself away from it by 'unfollowing' all my contacts. As soon as I did that, I seemed to break the chains that were tying me to it.

Date: 2017-01-02 01:14 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] fragbert.livejournal.com
Everything in this comment is exactly how I feel as well.

Date: 2017-01-02 07:41 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] miintikwa.livejournal.com
I basically got into the terrible habit of refreshing FB all the time while I was in the hospital. Until I break that bad habit, I think I'm going to stay away. (And given that I keep reaching for my phone, wanting to go to FB, I have not broken the habit yet.)

Eventually, though, I'll go back. Just because it IS the fastest/easiest way to keep in touch with over 100 friends. -.-

Date: 2017-01-04 12:58 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] rock-dinosaur.livejournal.com
Yes, I've been exactly the same myself, and have found that not only has it wasted my time and caused me to be extremely unproductive (which in itself leads to dissatisfaction and unhappiness), but that my interactions with people on there were making me angry and depressed. I also got frustrated and began to think I must be really boring and/or annoying when nobody responded to my posts, even though it was very likely because nobody had seen them due to Facebook's stupid algorithms. It's just a horrible site altogether.

When you think about it, life went on perfectly well before Facebook existed. What would actually change if we weren't on it? We'd have to interact with people in real life! I don't honestly think anything terrible will happen if I greatly limit my presence on there, and the time I spend on it. I no longer want to be enslaved by it and I feel it's up to me to take control of the situation.

Date: 2017-01-04 11:49 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] miintikwa.livejournal.com
Agreed! I feel like I'm doing well with my "resolution" here. Hopefully, we can both find a better path through the morass that is FB.

Date: 2017-01-02 07:40 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] miintikwa.livejournal.com
I've decided that I do need to keep FB so that I can maintain contact with close friends and family, but I've managed to draw myself away from it by 'unfollowing' all my contacts. As soon as I did that, I seemed to break the chains that were tying me to it.

This may be what I end up doing. Currently, I need to stay away for a while, because I need to break the habit I got into while I was in hospital, which was basically ALL REFRESH FB ALL THE TIME. So, I removed it from my phone and I'm staying busy in other ways so I don't get caught back up in it.

But yeah-- there are people I care about that I want to see info from. I'm just tired of the negative drumbeat that seems to ring out there so often.

Date: 2017-01-01 11:07 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] fyrebard.livejournal.com
I will be trying to keep up more here as well (along with cross-posting some FB posts like today and yesterday). I will miss you on FB but I def understand about needing breaks. I love you!

Date: 2017-01-02 07:41 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] miintikwa.livejournal.com
Yay! I love you too!

Date: 2017-01-02 07:27 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] cypherindigo.livejournal.com
I will miss you over there, but as long as you are somewhere I can find you I am good.

Date: 2017-01-02 07:42 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] miintikwa.livejournal.com
As I said above, I'll be back eventually. I just need to break the habit I had gotten into, because it was a bad one.


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